let it cool off a little so you don't get burned. The plastic lid comes off in a counter clockwise rotation and should not take a whole lot to break loose unless it was over tightened. If you dont have the right size socket you can put a rag over the top of the lid and use a pair of channel locks to remove it. I've done it twice with channel locks and it worked fine. When you screw back on, get it as tight as you can with your bare hand and then snug it down with the channel locks but you don't need to put much effort into it. Just get it snug. To remove the filter from the lid just give it a jerk. You will have to remove the plastic under the car to get at the drain plug. Just turn the screws around the edges and it drops right down. It is easy to put back on so don't worry about that. I put 5w-30 BMW high perf synthetic in mine the last time I changed the oil. Mobil 1 is fine as well. Good luck.